Why Others Tear You Down
No matter what you do in life, there’s always going to be someone there that wants to tear you down. They want to find every fault that you have and exploit it to make you feel bad about yourself. They want to destroy your confidence and make sure that you never feel like you can succeed at anything. It’s frustrating to hurt your feelings and it makes you feel like you are a piece of dirt. So why does this happen? Why do people feel like they have to tear you down and make you feel like garbage? Believe it or not, there are a lot of reasons behind us which I will discuss today.
The reality of the situation is that the main reason most people tear others down is that they are unhappy with themselves. I know this sounds strange, but it’s true. The reason that they tear others down is that if they are happy with how their life is going. Maybe they’re not as successful as they wanted to be. Maybe they’re not living up to their own expectations. They definitely don’t want to see you surpass them. So, in turn, they try to tear you down so that you feel like you’re lesser than they are. The psychology behind this is if you don’t have the confidence in yourself to succeed, then you most likely won’t. They find your faults, then try to embarrass you and tear down your credibility.
One thing that you have to remember is that if you don’t believe in yourself no one else will. You have to realize that you are in control of your own success. You can’t let others’ opinions of you affect how your life ends up. When someone tries to tear you down, just remember that they have faults of their own. There’s not a single person on planet earth that is perfect. While I would not recommend stooping to their level, make a mental note of their faults, and list them in your head. This will remind you that they’re not perfect either. Assess their life and their success, and you’ll understand why they’re trying to tear you down.
If you if you dig deep enough you understand that they are most likely not as successful as they should. Maybe they have a drinking problem. Maybe their marriage is falling apart. Maybe they’ve been in the same position at their office for the last 15 years without a promotion. The truth of the matter is, they are most likely just bitter and angry. They’re frustrated with their own life because they are in a dead-end job and their life is going nowhere. Notice that most bosses and people in upper management don’t try to tell you down. It is actually people that you work with that are on your level that do this. They’ve probably been there a while and they see that you are younger, faster, and better than them at almost everything, so they try to make you feel like you’re less of a person in order to stop your momentum. Don’t let them do this to you. Ignore them, and don’t stoop to their level. When it comes down to it, the best revenge is success.
Things to Remember:
Acknowledging their malicious comments gives them power.
They are where they are for a reason.
Don’t ever settle for being where you are.
Only listen to people that are successful and have what you have.
Listen to people who have the things you want in life. Don’t take advice from losers. You’ll end up with what they have.
Always strive to better yourself. If you are always trying to improve, your situation will follow.
So what do you think?
Understanding why others tear you down will help you be more understanding and will help you to rise above that nonsense. Don’t get mixed up with malicious people, and focus only on your own success. I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments section below.